Realizations, Worries, & Book Lists

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I had an epiphany the other day as I was cleaning poop off of Miles’ diapers and it goes a little something like this:

I am a senior in college…A SENIOR! That means next year I will actually be working with people, I mean, not in the full capacity that I one day will be, but still.  Holy crap! I need to learn more about people..about psychology, marriage, families, counseling!  What have I been doing for the past 4…err 6, okay, 7 years? I need to read every book on psychology and marriage counseling I can get my hands on. I’m going to be a marriage and family counselor…YES! I’m going to help couples not get divorced and find happiness…YES! I’m going to be good at it…YES!!…and I’m still going to be cleaning poop off of diapers…yep.

The sudden realization that graduation is coming soon has me super motivated and excited to learn as much as I possibly can about what I am going to be doing. The problem is that I should’ve been motivated and excited about it way before now. I have taken psychology class after psychology class, and counseling and Bible class, one after the other, and I’ve done great in them (4.0..whoo hoo!) but I don’t remember much off the top of my head. Does this happen a lot? I’m a little worried that I’m slightly under prepared to be a people-helper.  Should I even be telling everyone this?

Well, now that I put all of that out there, I guess I should say that I AM doing something about it.  I have decided that from now on, my “fun reading” will be filled with books that will help me in my career, which is not a bad deal since those types of books are still “fun” to me.  I started Attachments: Why you love, feel, and act the way you do by Dr. Tim Clinton. I read a lot of his books in my classes, so I figured this would be a good one, too. I already have a few more lined up, as well:

How Christian is Christian Counseling?: The dangerous secular influences that keep us from caring for souls by Gary L. Almy

Curing the Heart: A model for Biblical counseling by Howard Eyrich

A Theology of Christian Counseling by Jay Edward Adams

Totally Sufficient by Ed Hindson

Basic Counseling Techniques: A Beginning Therapist’s Tool Kit by C. Wayne Perry

I’ll stick with those 5 for now, but this list will definitely be growing! Oo, I can’t wait until I have a library in my house. I’m also going to be adding a few “must-have-on-hand-always” books for reference:

The Popular Encyclopedia of Christian Counseling: An Indispensable Tool for Helping People with Their Problems by Tim Clinton

Christian Counseling 3rd Edition: Revised and Updated by Gary R. Collins

Psychology, Theology, and Spirituality in Christian Counseling by Mark R. McMinn

Modern Psychotherapies: A Comprehensive Christian Appraisal by S. Jones & R. Butman

Theories of Counseling and Psychotherapy: A Case Approach by Nancy L. Murdock

I will also be adding more to that list. Sorry if this is totally boring, but I really need to make a list that I won’t lose, and since I’ve never lost my blog, I thought this would be the best place for it. Plus, it would be nice to hear from counselors, therapists, pastors, or any other person who has experience in the field, what books they might recommend. Alright, back to learning stuff! This is so exciting! Happy Wednesday, everyone!

The Happiness Project…so far.

I have been reading The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin, and I must say it has inspired me in many different ways.  In her book, the first chapter is dedicated to her commandments, her rules of life, and some truths she has discovered throughout life, then she goes from there. Each month is dedicated to improving or changing some area of her life like her marriage, parenthood, organization, etc.  I am only halfway through, but so far she has motivated me to tackle my mess of a closet, and to make some much needed purchases of file boxes that I have been putting off for months. I just keep all of our important documents safely jammed in one of the 3 drawers in our desk, along with old coupons that I will never use because I am not a couponer, old newspapers, old magazines, and some more junk that I really need to get rid of. This is not like me at all. My main job in the Air Force was to maintain a file system for our unit and I did a pretty good job of that, so I have no idea why I have not implemented parts of that system at my own home. That is changing! I am starting small since being 25-year old newly weds with a brand new baby does not constitute that much paperwork.  I was poking around the Container Store’s online shop and found these two file boxes that will be perfect…if only I could decide which one I want:


I’m pretty sure I’ll end up with the bamboo box.  Mrs. Rubin has also inspired me to work on my friendships.  I don’t think I spend enough time maintaining this part of my life because it has always taken care of itself, or that is how it feels. It feels like the older I get, the more work I have to put into these relationships to make them full and worthwhile.  Too bad it can’t be like it was in elementary school when you saw a girl wearing the same shoes as you and all-of-the-sudden you two were BFF’s for life.  Life was easy then.  Anyway, I am going to get back to the book. I highly recommend this book to anyone who feels bored with life and is ready to make some changes. She will inspire you to do just that!

Have a good day!

On To Book #2

I finally finished Why We Can’t Wait by MLK, Jr.  It was such a great book and I highly recommend that every American..heck, everyone read this amazing history book.  I already held Martin Luther King, Jr. in high regard, and this book just reaffirmed why I respect him so much. Here is a bit of the review that I posted to my Goodreads:

I think that every American should read this book. MLK, Jr. was an amazing man who was in love with God and who had a heart for people. He had an amazing understanding of what Jesus Christ would do and, I believe, was a great example of what a Christian should be. As I re-read “Letters From a Birmingham Jail”, I was reminded how loving and forgiving of a man he was, even to the people who despised him the most. He had a vision of a world where everyone was treated equally, no matter what the color of their skin, and nonviolence was how he was going to reach that goal. The last words of the book, “Nonviolence, the answer to the Negroes’ need, may become the answer to the most desperate need of all humanity.”, made me realize just how big his vision was. In the second chapter, he refers to nonviolence as “The Sword that Heals”. I think this is a great allusion to the nonviolent actions that were used to heal years of segregation and the awful things that took place in the South against black people. This is a great history book and should be read in every high school!

I know The Republic is supposed to be my next book, but I decided to skip around. I just don’t feel like my brain is up to the task yet. So I have decided to start on number 15 of my 2011 Reading List, The Geography of Bliss, by Eric Weiner. I must say that so far this book is very humorous. Chapter one made me laugh out loud about 5 times already.

You know what I have been forgetting lately? My Japanese words! Today’s words are abiru (ah-bee-ru) which means to take a bath or shower, or to bask in sunlight, (Note that the Japanese “R” is pronounced differently then the English “R”. )and the other word of the day is the Japanese word for abhor, which is nikumu (nee-koo-moo).

2011 Reading List

Here is to actually starting AND finishing all of the books on this list. “To ancient times and distant music!” Cheers! *as I lift my imaginary full wine glass up in the air to tink other imaginary full wine glasses of my imaginary friends while my husband stares at me like I grew and elephant trunk from my shoulder*

1. Why We Can’t Wait by MLK Jr.

2. The Republic by Plato

3. The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald

4. Ideas and Opinions by Albert Einstein

5. The Rest is Noise: Listening to the 20th Century by Alex Ross

6. Cadillac Desert by Marc Reisner

7. Midnight’s Children by Salman Rushdie

8. A Prayer for Owen Meany by John Irving

9. The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver (this one has been sitting on my night stand for about 7 months)

10. The Autobiography of Mark Twain by Mark Twain

11. Eats, Shoots, & Leaves: The Zero Tolerance Approach to Punctuation by Lynne Truss

12. 1776 by David McCullough

13. The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat by Oliver Sacks

14. Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov

15. The Geography of Bliss: One Grump’s Search for the Happiest Places in the World by Eric Weiner

16. Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen (I vow to finally finish this book this year)

17. Lord of the Flies by William Golding

18. Of Mice and Men by John Steinbeck

19. The Professor and the Madman: A Tale of Murder, Insanity, and the Making of the Oxford English Dictionary by Simon Winchester

20. On Writing by Stephen King

21. The Canterbury Tales by Geoffrey Chaucer (Read this in high school and had to write my own kind of Canterbury Tales, so much fun)

22. The Works of Anne Bradstreet by Anne Bradstreet

23. The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath

24. The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis

25. The Great Divorce by C. S. Lewis

26. La Bella Lingua: My Love Affair with Italian by Dianne Hales

Okay, I think 25 is good to start off with for this year…I’m going to go get started now with Why We Can’t Wait. =)